Feeling ready for kids and being social chair of your marriage | Mike Duboe (father of 2, GP at Greylock)

Mike Duboe is a General Partner at Greylock, one of the most well-known venture firms in Silicon Valley. Prior to that he was a Growth leader at Stitch Fix through their IPO and Tilt which was acquired by AirBnB. He is a husband and the father of two kids. In this episode we discuss:

• Cultural influences from his grandparents and parents

• Getting into alignment on the right time to have kids

• Having your second kid 2 months into the pandemic!

• Building resiliency in your family

• The ongoing challenge of balancing with two working parents

• Creating constraints to prioritize your time

• How to make time for your spouse

• Being the social chair of your marriage

• What he'd do differently if they had a third kid

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Where to find Mike Duboe

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/mduboe

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikeduboe/

Where to find Adam Fishman:

- Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

- Twitter (aka X): https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

- Threads: https://www.threads.net/@fishmanaf

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:50] Mike’s Background 

[7:54] Key Differences Between Growth and Venture

[11:15] Mike’s childhood and upbringing  

[14:46] Mike’s wife and kids

[16:58] Aligning on the time to start a family 

[19:36] His earliest fatherhood memories

[21:31] Most surprising part about being a dad 

[24:08] The ongoing challenge of balancing the lives of two working parents

[28:25] Frameworks for parenting 

[30:30] Disagreements on parenting philosophy 

[33:22] Having your second kid at the start of the pandemic

[35:38] Biggest mistakes made as a father 

[37:15] Rapid fire round

[41:41] Parting words

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Show references:

Bill Murray-Lost in translation: https://youtu.be/eNK7N3AwVFQ

Greylock: https://greylock.com/

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/